Hope and Healing
Women are precious creations from the hands of God, and
are to be loved, protected, cherished, and respected: No matter
what you are told, no man has the freedom or right to abuse a woman.
There is no excuse.
The principles that follow will help you break the cycle of abuse in your life
and begin your healing journey:
Abuse is Always Wrong!
We are all made in the
image of God,
No one has the right to abuse the image
• Tell yourself the truth. Denial is a hallmark of abuse. Admit that you have been the victim of abuse and recognize the damage it has done. Embrace the reality of knowing that even though you have been abused you are a woman worthy of great respect and no one has the right to continue to abuse you. You are important , you are valuable and there is One who loves you. This is one of the first and most important steps to healing.
• Set appropriate boundaries. Boundaries affirm to the abuser that you are not placing yourself in a position to be abused anymore. Most often that means that you must remove yourself from the abusive relationship. You may have to do this because setting boundaries will make the abuse intensify or take another form. Be safe. When taking this step it is very important to find someone who will support you. You will need to find someone who has experience with domestic violence like a trained counselor or someone from your local domestic abuse shelter. Setting boundaries is a vital step to your healing so approach it cautiously and make sure that you have support.
• Develop healthy relationships. It is a critical step to your healing to seek support from friends, family, and, ideally, your church.
Healthy relationships are ones of mutual respect where you are treated as a person of worth. Friends, family members and counselors should acknowledge the fact that you have been abused and that you are not to be blamed for it. They should be willing to support and/or help guide you in your decisions. Support groups led by a trained professional are wonderful sources of healing and comfort. Building healthy friendships and relationships is key to becoming a healthy whole survivor of abuse.
• Forgiveness. Forgiveness is never denying or excusing the damage caused by abuse. It is giving up your right to seek revenge and retaliation. When you forgive it frees you up to focus on your new life and who you want to be. Forgiveness is a choice, not a feeling. Forgive your abuser and yourself, if need be. There is a God will deal with everything else.
Though these principles may be easy to understand, they can sometimes be difficult for you to put into practice. It's alright to need help. Now may be the time that you need
help from above. Never give up because you are a woman of worth and abuse is always wrong!