Alcohol and Abuse
Alcohol and drugs are often seen as a "cause" of domestic abuse,
but this is a myth. While alcohol and drug use are a definite problem
when used by the perpetrator, it usually only makes the situation worse.
The use of alcohol in itself does not lead to violence. Many men are abusive whether they have been drinking or not and many people drink without becoming violent. However, men may still blame their violent behavior on being drunk and it can be used as another excuse for their battering behavior.
When both partners have been drinking or using drugs, the violence tends to be even more severe, and the woman may be less able to protect herself. The abuser (and others) may blame the woman, if she herself has been using drugs or alcohol and when she reports the abuse, the police and other agencies are likely to take her less seriously.
Many women use alcohol or other drugs to help them cope with the abuse; and there is also evidence that some women are introduced to substances by their violent partners in order to increase their control over them.
Domestic abuse and sexual assault are not due to a loss of control brought on by excessive drinking. These crimes are about gaining and maintaining control by using any means, including violence. Using alcohol as an excuse is just a denial by the batterer to take personal responsibility for his violence.
Battering is learned behavior, not the result of substance abuse. Studies indicate batterers who beat their partners while under the influence of alcohol also beat them when sober. Treatment for alcohol abuse does not "cure" domestic abuse; both problems must be treated independently.
Alcohol is one of several risk factors related to sexual assault and dating/intimate partner violence. It is often the medium perpetrators use to slip date rape drugs to their victims. Alcohol can lower inhibitions, making it easier for a perpetrator to ignore boundaries. Intoxication makes it more difficult for a victim to guard against an attack.
To reduce that risk:
* Don't accept drinks from someone you don't know.
* Never accept a drink in an open container or leave your drink unattended.
* Try to avoid conflicts or arguments if you or your partner were drinking.
* Don't mix sexual decisions with alcohol.
* When you feel uncomfortable with someone's drinking, try to leave the
* Don't go off with people you don't know when you have been drinking.
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